A research conducted at the Mayo clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, has shown just how strongly personal attitudes can impact health and quality of life of any individual. The patients did certain personality tests that showed how optimistic or pessimistic they are in life. Over the course of 30 years, researchers measured their progress. The results of the research have shown that pessimist lived shorter than average, whereas optimists lived longer.
An optimistic attitude has been proven to boost immunity. Optimistic individuals generally adopt better lifestyles, take care of their health and make health-conscious choices. On the other hand, pessimism is linked to depression, anxiety and high blood pressure. Therefore, the quality of our lives can be greatly influenced by the attitude we choose. These attitudes shape who we are and how successful and healthy we would be.
If you struggle to remain positive — here are some tips that might help you do so:
Believe in Yourself
If you wonder what the difference is between very successful individuals and those less successful — it’s self-belief. When it comes to achieving goals throughout life, building self-confidence and self-belief proves to be more effective and more important — in outcomes in any segment of your life — than education, contacts or even intelligence. Thinking you have the ability to achieve something meaningful is of utmost importance and most often leads to success.
Set Clear Goals
What might hinder your success is not knowing clearly what you want to do, who you want to be and what you want to accomplish. A good place to start is to think about the actual ambitions and then start working towards their achievement.
Form a Mental Picture of Your Success
If you occasionally daydream about attaining your most desired goals, you are actually increasing the likelihood of your success. Mentally picturing the moment you wish for, in any area of your life, will help you develop efficient strategies to achieve them in reality. So, enjoy yourself while you imagine giving a passionate speech, or getting that promotion, or signing your first book, or being a member of a team that won.
Take Ownership and Responsibility for Your Life
If you keep blaming other people for your own mistakes in life, you are getting stuck in the negative and you’ll hardly achieve anything good this way. Owning your mistakes will make you contemplate how and why they occurred. Eventually you will learn from them while building your own personal integrity by taking responsibility for everything that you do.
Talk to Yourself
You cannot always expect others to motivate you — most of the time you’ll have to do this on your own. Motivating yourself can sometimes be hard, but if you practice this, it will make such a difference. A simple “Yes, I can!” sentence will often be strong enough to boost your self confidence and prepare you for the win. If you fail, be gentle on yourself and say “I’ll failed this time but I learned …………. I’ll make it next time!”
Eliminate the Negative
We all have doubts and negative feelings sometimes. However, you need to avoid creating a habit of negative thinking and pessimistic attitudes. You can prevent this by deliberately replacing negative thoughts and anxieties with positive ones. When you face a problem, acknowledge it and think “This is an obstacle but I will overcome it.”
Associate with Positive People
If you think about it, you will surely find some very positive people among your friends, family and colleagues. There will also be those who are pessimistic and depressed. Try spending more time with dynamic people that bring you positive energy. Maybe you’ll even inspire those that are going through a tough time in their lives and are stuck in the negative, to become more enthusiastic.
Count Your Blessings
Make a list of the things in your life you consider to be assets and liabilities. An asset would be good health, education, employment, whereas a liability would be a bad relationship or being unemployed. Most of the time, people have so much going for them that they take those things for granted. So, be grateful for all the assets in your life but also try changing those that are a liability.
Find the Silver Lining
When you are in the middle of some undesirable situation in your life, try searching for opportunities. If you’ve lost your job, it’s not the end of the world. Many people who lost their jobs would tell you that it was the best thing that ever happened to them, because they now have much better jobs that make them so much happier and enthusiastic. As each situation can bring both the fear of change and excitement of it — always try focusing on the positive.
Relax and Enjoy Life More
Life is often hectic and can become so stressful at times that we all forget to enjoy ourselves. So, remember this when you’ve had too much of everything and stop to enjoy the little things. Do something that makes you happy, that will recharge you so that you can keep facing the challenges to come.
Occasionally when things don’t go your way, and you feel filled with doubts and fears — pretend that you are successful and confident. This might seem like a bad idea, but it will be tremendously helpful in developing positive attitudes. You can train your brain and change your thinking patterns and this will eventually make you more capable to deal with any issue that arises.
Negative thinking is easier that positive thinking, because there are not many challenges. On the other hand, thinking positively requires action, trying and failing and trying again. So, choose a more difficult way, but the more rewarding one at the same time!